If my good friend had an exboyfriend that I knew treated her shitty and threatened to hurt her and stalked her and stuff, I would not be friends with that exboyfriend. Especially if I met that guy after they had broken up, asked my friend if that guy was the terrible ex, and she confirmed that it was. Double especially if instead of it being my friend this person was my sister. Or a long-standing bestie. Or the guy this ex had made the threats of “beating the shit out of you” over (and were also directed at the guy).
Call me crazy.
Maybe I have an overdeveloped sense of loyalty or giving-a-shit regarding my friends and family.
Maybe this friend, brother, bestie, and ex boy thing don’t think verbal abuse and threats of violence are a big deal.
Maybe I’m overestimating how important I am to these people. Maybe the nagging feeling of people not really caring has been right all along.
But man, some shit just seems like it should be obvious. Shit like “hey maybe don’t be buddies with your friend’s crazy ex”.
Whatever.